Have you ever been so disappointed with someone that you can barely believe it? You were expecting everything but that from them? The worst part is that you may blame yourself, you know that if you had not said that maybe... The truth is that his/her reaction was way out of the line. He/she told you that He/She loved you and now you start doubting if that was ever true. The person doesn´t speak to you now, and it hurts a lot because you really liked him/her. You´ve sent him/her messages and texts apologizing, even though you don´t think you should but you swallowed your pride for them, and have no reply whatsoever. To think that you were planning a lot of things together and all goes away because a stupid little fight, we all say bad things when we are angry...
The problem now is what´s going on in your head: This all was just an excuse for he/her to break up with me. How can he/her do this to me if he/her loved me?
They could have ignored you for a while and then apologize, but it has been a couple of days and nothing. You see they deleted the relationship status on Facebook and seem so very fine with their post, even flirting with other people already. You so want to bloc them out of your life but you didn´t have the guts yet! every time you go on Facebook there they are, all so happy... Now what? you still have hope? of course you do you´re always hoping, but you don´t think you will ever forgive them. All this probably just showed you how bad of a person they really were. How can you ever been so stupid and fall in love with someone like that? and you start noticing all they´re flaws. You also start shutting yourself down, you will never trust anyone again... Eve tough you want to forget it still hurts. You still care. You´re still hoping.
What are you´re thoughts on this matter? Did it ever happen to you? What did you do?
Rita
Hi Lovely!
ReplyDeleteIt's a good thing that there's still hope in you! I mean, I'm absolutely no expert when it comes to those things, but as you have realized by yourself: if this person messed that bad with you, he (?) is totally not worth all the trouble. You're young, proud, beautiful, caring, full of love - don't waste your time!! That is so rude of this person. :(
Can you tell me the name of this person so I'll text him over at FB to tell him not to behave like a total prick!!
Feel better soon!!
XO.
Thank you Nadine, that´s really sweet of you.... :)
ReplyDeleteThe same thing just happened to me. But he said he wasn't ready for a relationship now. And we were moving too fast. But the truth of the matter was that HE was moving too fast.
ReplyDeleteHe said maybe after graduation. I told him that I couldn't just wait around like a puppy for him to be ready. He said he likes me so much and that he's never met someone like me but that he wants to wait.
I truly believe he was just making an excuse to back out. Now I'm left wondering. So many questions in my head. I would rather he just reject me than leave me in the dark. WE haven't spoken for 2 months..2 months. How did we get here?
You're going to have many days where you're going to be sad. Trust me. Then maybe you'll have 6 days straight of being sad, and then 1 day of being happy. Then maybe 4 days of being sad then 2 days being happy. Trust me, the happiness will come. I'm STILL heartbroken after two months but it's getting better.
I will pray for joy and happiness. Please keep me updated. I know how this feels, and it's NOT fun. I'm sorry I wrote so much..
Feel better.
Bo, It's very nice of you to share your story. Hope you find someone that really love's you. Even though it's not the best situation it's good to know we are not alone. Even tough it hurts this is going to make us stronger. May God be with you and look after you. :) **
ReplyDeleteOh It happened to me few times.. but don't worry my dear, everything is going to be ok ! <3
ReplyDeleteExactly :) Keep that positive atitude. It will help you through your darkest days. Thanks so much. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteHi!
ReplyDeleteOh I am so sorry to hear all this! Now remember this one thing.... when any kind of relationship fails, never, ever, ever blame only yourself, it takes 2 to tango, right?
*Disappointments* will always be a part of life, the best thing to do is take a deep breathe, hold your head high and try to move on.
Good luck.
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"Friend he/she fooled you one time
ReplyDeletehe/she sure gonna do it again" Robert Johnson (1936)
"The person doesn´t speak to you now, and it hurts a lot because you really liked him/her."
ReplyDeleteI lost a friendship that I thought would last a lifetime back in 2008... and if I think about the situation too much, I start crying. Fortunately, God gave me incredibly wonderful friendships to compensate for the loss of that one. However, I still miss it... and sometimes think that I always will.
sorry for ur aching heart * in time u we find this to be a blessing, as you will have grown & bloomed a little more & found something new & brilliant about yourself ;)
ReplyDeleteNadine was so right. I was let down by my closest of friends. He allowed someone to throw a tantrum and destroy two weeks of holidays we all had planned. Cost my husband and I a fortune. I could not believe it, I was utterly speechless with rage. Relationships even friend ones are difficult at best. People who hurt you so badly are not worth chasing. you have apologised, whether you should or not it irrelevant.You have extended the olive branch. YOu must now turn around and walk away. Move on. Obviously not meant to be and there are wonderful friends and lovers out there that you have no met yet. Give them your attention not someone who is not worthy.
ReplyDeleteTo Ms. Blase, yes, good friendships that break are as hurtful, maybe more so than a lover's breakup. You will always miss your friends but its a wound that one day will heal completely and you will think of them fondly.
To love is a very complex thing. Firstly you need standards. And they must be in harmony - yours and his. It's a very basic principal. You need commitment, even through the hardest of times. Being grown up enough to deal with things together. If one side or both aren't doing that, than it's not trully love.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time it should be a very simple thing indeed. Something that brings peace to your heart, that doesn't make you doubt. There's no doubt in true love. If there is doubt or fear than it isn't love.
I hope you find true love one day! God may have something wonderful prepared for you, if you're willing to wait and trust in Him.
Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts.
ReplyDeleteSpecial thank you to this anonymous person because I so agree with what you just said (Wish I knew who you were). God has given me strenght till now I know He is with me and has better plans for me. Than you so much :)
Deus tem maneiras misteriosas de trabalhar... sempre para o nosso bem. vale sempre a pena esperar nEle!
ReplyDeletebeijinho:)
Been there. I like how you wrote this btw :)
ReplyDeleteI think it hurts, until I realized he wasn't worth the hurt and that's when I could really stop caring.